Monday, September 20, 2010

something given has no value

Mindtrip is a massive gift in my life. He keeps me honest to myself and the standards to which we both hold ourselves. His take no prisoners "i dont give a flying fuck how you feel about this cuz i care and you need to fucking chill" mentally knocks me on my ass but it makes me think, and most of the time i know hes right. There is a respect between us, not a respect that has been given, but one that has been earned. Through work, sweat, and sometimes tears (maybe a lil blood here and then between friends), we have forged a pretty good friendship and i know i can hit hum up about anything. Ive earned that.

Mindtrip also called me on something last night, and its been burning my brain since. He said i was expecting to be given certianty while being uncertian myself. His honesty reminded me of one of the Marine Corps credos, Something Given Has No Value. Everything i had i earned. Now it seems i am expecting to be given something without any real earning process... and thats unacceptable.

A boy does not get a collar, he earns it from his sir. Thats what i must do, i cannot expect other people to give me what i am not willing to earn. If im not willing to earn it, then i do not deserve it.


Jnk Nswt said...

OK, after reading the whole post, the title makes sense. And for the set of things the Marines are probably talking about, it's probably true, too.

But BOY is that a bad principle out of context! In fact, I'd say there are some things which only have value if freely given, without any price or compensation. But they aren't what this post is about.

As for a collar, I was taught that the boy cannot earn it, and is not given it. What the boy earns is the privilege of wearing it. "It's not your collar, boy. It's my collar that I am allowing you to wear. Don't forget that." This privilege can be taken away if the Sir thinks the boy no longer deserves it.

Skippy said...

i agree, but i was shorthanding. The right to wear the collar is implied with the actual gift of having it locked on, and the right to no longer wear it is taken away when the collar is, the physical collar has more implications than merely its own existence, it truly is more than the sum of its parts.